14 Common Relationship Mistakes :(

Got this from a yahoo personal article. Enjoy :)

1. Thinking we'll never get over him. We will. Two months and several powdered donuts later... we'll feel better.

2. Spying. Hacking into email or phones looking for suspicious messages and then yelling at him for the "k thnx bye" text he sent to his female coworker two months ago.

3. Thinking our partners must be interested in everything we do, think, and say. When it comes down to it, we zone out when men talk about circuit boards. Right? Having a best friend or gab partner outside a relationship is a good thing.

4. Displacing. Freud was right with this one. If we're mad at him because he ate our tasty restaurant leftovers out of the fridge, tell him we're mad at him because he ate our tasty restaurant leftovers out of the fridge. Don't turn it into a commitment issue.

5. Expecting too much. Putting so much energy into the idea of a fairy-tale romance that we're disappointed with anything less.

6. Stagnating. Waiting for someone to find us, instead of going out and finding someone ourselves.

7. Slacking. Thinking that a perfect relationship should be easy. Relationships require work and compromise; a perfect relationship means doing those things well.

8. Isolating. Dropping our friends when we're falling in love. Friends help define who we are, and we need them when things get tough.

9. Fantasizing. Thinking that getting a boyfriend or husband will solve all our problems. No one can fix our lives for us!

10. Using the silent treatment. Our partners can't read our minds; he won't know what's wrong unless we sack up and tell him.

11. Denying. Denying that there's a problem in a relationship, instead of facing it and asking ourselves what needs to be done. Problems don't usually go away on their own. Letting them fester only makes it worse.

12. Standing alone. Thinking that depending on someone else is a weakness. Leaning on someone else sometimes is the sign of a healthy relationship.

13. Over-analyzing. There's analysis and then there's over-analysis. Wondering why the fiance didn't call once during his bachelor weekend in Vegas? A legitimate case for analysis. Wondering why he only called twice and not three times during a guys' night out? Not so much.

14. Trying to reinvent the relationship wheel. If some items on this list feel cliche, it's because they are! If we would only listen to a good dose of love advice now and again, we'd probably save ourselves some heartache.

Link to Article here.

BOO! trick or treatttt ..

Halloween's coming up this Saturday and who's excited? Me, me, me! Too bad I won't actually be going trick-or-treating though. I miss the free candy but at the same time I don't want to take that away from the kids and really, I think it's a smarter choice to prevent myself from stuffing my face with all that candy and chocolate. (mmmm...)

The innocence of Halloween in all of its costumed glory, decor and delights has dwindled away in adults, and is now also seen as a sex symbol (skimpier costumes, sexual gag costumes, etc). How time flies right? Ah well, I dont want to suck the fun out of Halloween so I'll go with the flow on this one.

Enjoy your Halloween everyone!

Ye Olde Code of Chivalry and Thy Art of Courtly Love

The Code of Chivalry
From the Rifts: England Supplement

* Live to serve King and Country. (too bad we dont have a king , but you get it)
* Live to defend Crown and Country and all it holds dear. (yea yea , given)
* Live one's life so that it is worthy of respect and honor. (well .. okay this should be obvious)
* Live for freedom, justice and all that is good. (once again ..)
* Never attack an unarmed foe. (obviously this has changed - to all you hardcore thugs , chea)
* Never use a weapon on an opponent not equal to the attack. (the thugs win this one too)
* Never attack from behind. (... LOL thugs out there , you're on a role for non-chivalry)
* Avoid lying to your fellow man. (..who hasn't told a lie by the age of 4?)
* Avoid cheating. (ahaahhahaha)
* Avoid torture. (this has changed as well)
* Obey the law of king, country, and chivalry. (how many ppl are chivalrous , pft)
* Administer justice.
* Protect the innocent. (as if anyone cares about anyone other than themselves !)
* Exhibit self control. (AHAHAHAAHAHAHAH ... YEA OKAY THERE)
* Show respect to authority. (this is a fucking joke, a fuckin rebel -.-)
* Respect women. (fuck yea .. but then how many women deserve it ?)
* Exhibit Courage in word and deed.
* Defend the weak and innocent.
* Destroy evil in all of its monstrous forms.
* Crush the monsters that steal our land and rob our people.
* Fight with honor. (this has changed .. )
* Avenge the wronged.
* Never abandon a friend, ally, or noble cause.
* Fight for the ideals of king, country, and chivalry.
* Die with valor.
* Always keep one's word of honor. (this changed)
* Always maintain one's principles. (this one too)
* Never betray a confidence or comrade. (yea this one by a mile)
* Avoid deception. (yeaaa ... riightt)
* Respect life and freedom. (too many people take it for granted)
* Die with honor.
* Exhibit manners. (do people even know what manners are anymore ?)
* Be polite and attentive.
* Be respectful of host, women, and honor.
* Loyalty to country, King, honor, freedom, and the code of chivalry.
* Loyalty to one's friends and those who lay their trust in thee.

The Art of Courtly Love
From The Art of Courtly Love by Andreas Capellanus

1. Marriage is no real excuse for not loving.
2. He who is not jealous cannot love. (this isn't necessarily always true)
3. No one can be bound by a double love.
4. It is well known that love is always increasing or decreasing. (this is something to think about)
5. That which a lover takes against the will of his beloved has no relish. (boys should know this)
6. Boys do not love until they reach the age of maturity. (WHAT AGE IS THAT ? AHAHAHA)
7. When one lover dies, a widowhood of two years is required of the survivor.
8. No one should be deprived of love without the very best of reasons.
9. No one can love unless he is propelled by the persuasion of love.
10. Love is always a stranger in the home of avarice.
11. It is not proper to love any woman whom one would be ashamed to seek to marry. (no, really)
12. A true lover does not desire to embrace in love anyone except his beloved. (THAT'S FUCKIN RIGHT)
13. When made public love rarely endures. (hmmm ... i think this has changed)
14. The easy attainment of love makes it of little value: difficulty of attainment makes it prized. (FUCKIN RIGHT)
15. Every lover regularly turns pale in the presence of his beloved. (either pale or flushes haha)
16. When a lover suddenly catches sight of his beloved his heart palpitates. ( :] )
17. A new love puts an old one to flight. (hmmm... true ?)
18. Good character alone makes any man worthy of love. (this is pretty true)
19. If love diminishes, it quickly fails and rarely revives. (... yeaaa)
20. A man in love is always apprehensive.
21. Real jealousy always increases the feeling of love. (maybeee .. there are limits nowadays)
22. Jealousy increases when one suspects his beloved. (... no fuckin duh)
23. He whom the thought of love vexes eats and sleeps very little.
24. Every act of a lover ends in the thought of his beloved. ( ... I MISSS YOU VICTORRRRRR )
25. A true lover considers nothing good except what he thinks will please his beloved.
26. Love can deny nothing to love.
27. A lover can never have enough of the solaces of his beloved.
28. A slight presumption causes a lover to suspect his beloved.
29. A man who is vexed by too much passion usually does not love.
30. A true lover is constantly and without intermission possessed by the thought of his beloved. ( I LOVE YOU VICTORRRR !!! )
31. Nothing forbids one woman being loved by two men or one man by two women. (there is too much argument over this one nowadays)

Twisted Disney Princesses

Saw these Twisted Disney Princess Pics from the link that my friend Michelle sent me on facebook. They're FREAKING AMAZING. It's like if the evil alter-egos of all the disney princesses have been put into a visualization, that's what they'd look like. I'll repost the pics here for your enjoyment. Take a look, its freakishly good. It would be even more awesome if they made a twisted series of movies for the darker egos of the princesses but I doubt it'll happen. Either way, they're excellent portrayals so have fun with them! :)

Prince Charming and Princess of the Fairytale :)

I'm Not Surprised
Not Everything Lasts
I've Broken My Heart So Many Times,
I Stop Keeping Track.
Talk Myself In
I Talk Myself Out
I Get All Worked Up
And Then I Let Myself Down.

I Tried So Very Hard Not To Loose It
I Came Up With A Million Excuses
I Thought I Thought Of Every Possibility

And I Know Someday That It'll All Turn Out
You'll Make Me Work So We Can Work To Work It Out
And I Promise You Kid That I'll Get So Much More Than I Get
I Just Haven't Met You Yet

Mmmmm ....

I Might Have To Wait
I'll Never Give Up
I Guess It's Half Timing
And The Other Half's Luck
Wherever You Are
Whenever It's Right
You Come Out Of Nowhere And Into My Life

And I Know That We Can Be So Amazing
And Baby Your Love Is Gonna Change Me
And Now I Can See Every Possibility

Mmmmm ......

And Somehow I Know That It Will All Turn Out
And You'll Make Me Work So We Can Work To Work It Out
And I Promise You Kid I'll Get So Much More Than I Get
I Just Haven't Met You Yet

They Say All's Fair
And In Love And War
But I Won't Need To Fight It
We'll Get It Right
And We'll Be United

And I Know That We Can Be So Amazing
And Being In Your Life Is Gonna Change Me
And Now I Can See Every Single Possibility

Mmmm .....

And Someday I Know It'll All Turn Out
And I'll Work To Work It Out
Promise You Kid I'll Give More Than I Get
Than I Get Than I Get Than I Get

Oh You Know It'll All Turn Out
And You'll Make Me Work So We Can Work To Work It Out
And I Promise You Kid To Give So Much More Than I Get
Yeah I Just Haven't Met You Yet

I Just Haven't Met You Yet
Oh Promise You Kid
To Give So Much More Than I Get

I Said Love Love Love Love Love Love Love .....
I Just Haven't Met You Yet
Love Love Love .....
I Just Haven't Met You Yet

Haven't Met You Yet by: Michael Buble

I think we can all guess where's I'm going with this post. It may be a little long but bear with me, I have a lot of time on my hands and really, if you minded then you wouldn't be reading but anyways let's get to the point.

What's the perfect boyfriend/girlfriend like? I've been reading a lot ebooks by Nora Roberts and it got me thinking, do we really understand what true passionate, stop-your-heart kind of love is like? How do you know he/she's The One? What are the signs? What makes you so sure that your love will be unwavering, faithful, and honest? Most importantly, is it the "forever" kind of love that deep down, all of us long for?

Maybe it's just me, but to some extent I think Nora Roberts has it down pat. She really understands what it is that draws women in to the idea, the concept of and idealistic true love. Reading her ebooks and also a lot of her other novels over the years has made me realize that although it's idealistic, it isn't necessarily impossible for a guy who's perfect for you to exist in a tangible form (yes, that would be in flesh and blood).

When I'm talking about the idealistic perfect dream guy/girl (lets stick with dream guys since I am female and its easier 'cause... face it, we're actually more interested in the theory of the perfect guy), I'm not talking about physical appearances here. Of course we all have our own ideas about the perfect-LOOKING guy but c'mon, the physical impression is always first - the whole love-at-first-sight sorta stuff and that's what catches our eyes, makes our hearts stop, and its always the very first kind of contact between the leading characters in a romance novel. But although it is the looks we see and pay attention to first, when we're faced with reality, obviously the looks department doesn't rank high on the list in the long term. When we're faced with long-term results what are we looking for girls?

That's right, we're looking for the stable guys, the dependable guys, the chivalry, the prince-charming attitudes, the heroes, the cocky-confident guys, the shy-nerdy types who still manage to have a manly side when the situation calls for it, you know the cliches girls. But when it comes down to it, we're looking for all of the above. I know it'll differ for every girl, but at the heart of everything let's face it. We want a guy who's got points in every department; courage, intelligence, loving, caring, dependable, trustworthy, honesty, humility, and just about every other admirable characteristic we can think of along with the side benefit of being TOTALLY HOT and good-looking .

We're looking for the guys who fit and compliment us in every possible way, but at the same time we want a guy who we can affect in a positive way as well. We want the men who challenge us, physically, mentally, intellectually and of course sexually. Obviously it's not easy to find a guy in this world who'll score perfect in every category but we can always try to find the one that comes close right? So here's the questions to ask yourself, do you want the typical hot guy while risking the chance he's an asshole? Or are you willing to sacrifice the cliche of a Prince Charming for the not-so-perfect guy who may end up being perfect for you?

Seems like an easy question to answer right? No, not really because let's face it. We're selfish. Yes girls, I exposed us, we're selfish, we're greedy, and we want the good looking guy. We want the Prince Charming, the Knight in Shining Armour, and every other cliche in the fairytale book. Sorry though, cause they don't exist, so fuck Prince Charming and settle for the next best thing 'cause if you're going to keep on searching for the Prince, you're going to be searching for a very long time...

Text-cheating?

Cheating. Ah, the word which causes such heated debate among such a colourful variety of parties. Men, women, young teens in "love" or better termed as "in like". There are so many definitions for cheating, some simple, some more detailed and complex - but how many types are there? We're all familiar with cheating ranging anywhere from a hug, a kiss, dancing with the opposite sex, meeting with someone behind your other's back and even something as ridiculous as talking to another boy/girl who your boyfriend or girlfriend doesn't know can be considered cheating.

Not only this, but there are so many different types of mediums to "cheat". Msn, email, phone calls, clubbing/partying, the ever-popular Facebook, and of course text messaging. But what do we call cheating by text messages?

I overheard a girl sitting next to me in a lecture today talking about how some "guy in grade 12 is text-cheating on his girlfriend" with the girl sitting next to me. I was tempted to ask her what the hell "text-cheating" is but its a rhetorical question. It's exactly that. Cheating by text messages. It just seems so trivial that someone would go so far as to cheat by text messaging another girl. One may think that text messages don't seem important enough to be able to cause serious damage in a relationship but I guess that depends on the nature of the content in those text messages.

Maybe its just me, but I'm wondering "Why bother going to the trouble of "text-cheating"?"
If you're bored of your girlfriend that you won't text her but another girl instead then just break it off. Why sneak around? But the answers will always vary and there will always be excuses.

Point is guys/girls. Cut the crap. If your boyfriend/girlfriend isn't enough to hold your attention and affection then just break it off. It's not going to last if you're going to get bored and it doesn't make anyone happy. However, if short-term relationships are more your alley, then by all means, sneak away. I just still think its a waste of time and effort. Especially since at the core of it all, in our idealistic world, we'd all love to have a relationship with good foundations. Love, trust, communication, communication and all that jazz.

Anyways, we'll talk relationships again another day. Time to pay attention to the movie in this lecture. Good Night and Good Luck (thats the title of the movie).